What's Your Love Language?
With Valentine’s Day being tomorrow, all I keep hearing and seeing is all about LOVE. I’m going to be totally honest and let you in on a secret. I loathe Valentine’s Day. I think it’s OVERRATED to say the least. There shouldn’t be one day a year for you to profess your love to your significant other. The day has become all about the gifts and big, extravagant outings, social media posts trying to prove that your relationship is better, etc. It’s a bunch of crap. Half the couples don’t have a strong relationship, and all the singles are feeling so down that they all get together for cosmos and tears.
Josh and I had a conversation about Valentine’s Day plans this year. He said “I don’t mind showering you, but I know you don’t like to celebrate, so what are we gonna do”. Def don’t need to be showered. I told him he was still getting a card, but that’s it. As far as plans go, we decided to cook dinner TOGETHER and spend the evening curled up on the couch to Netflix & chill.
Maybe I feel this way because Receiving Gifts is alllll the way at the bottom of my love language. If you don’t know what I’m talking about, you should go take the Love Language test. It’s free & offers you insight about your love language, basically what you need to feel love. If you and your partner can both take the test, it can really help you both to understand each others needs.
I am equally Words of Affirmation & Physical Touch, followed by Acts of Service and Quality Time. I will tell you, Words of Affirmation was no surprise to me. I have always yearned for a “great job” or “I appreciate the work you’ve put into this” rather than a gold sticker or a bonus. Weird, I know. But again, I don’t need a gift, I need the words. Physical Touch was one that I really didn’t see myself scoring highly on, but I did. I will admit, this is something that Josh is really good at, so maybe I don’t notice that I need it. However, if we haven’t had physical touch I do find myself more emotional. I really thought I would score higher on Acts of Service because let me tell you, my Type A personality likes things a certain way, and when Josh puts things back in the fridge on the wrong shelf, or leaves his clothes EVERYWHERE, it drives me freaking nuts. I guess I don’t NEED him to take the initiative to do things around the house in order to feel loved. But I kinda wish I had scored higher so I could use it as an excuse to have him help with the laundry, ha!
I recommend you and your partner take the Love Language test. Even if you feel like you already know what each other needs, it can be eye opening and give some insight on how to express love to one another. Relationships are tough, man. They take work every. single. day. If you can take initiative to learn more about each other, it will only strengthen your relationship.
